Tantric healing therapy can be an effective treatment for supporting men to tackle some of the underlying causes of pre-mature ejaculation, with a mix of tools including confidential consultation, hands-on bodywork, coaching and techniques and exercises for self-practice.
What Is Premature Ejaculation?
Premature ejaculation (PE) is one of the most common sexual dysfunctions. Some studies suggest that 25% to 40% of adult men may develop PE at some stage in their lives.
What is considered premature? The medical world describes it as a condition where ejaculation occurs always, or almost always, before vaginal penetration or within one to two minutes afterwards. That is indeed quite severe.
In fact, even if the erection lasts longer than two minutes after vaginal penetration, a lot of men do not have full control of when to ejaculate. It can seriously affect the quality of sexual intimacy. If such situations are also taken into account, some estimates put the amount of men affected by PE up to 50-75%.
PE can bring distress, frustration, shame, and guilt, and affect self-esteem, causing men to avoid sexual intimacy with partners. It is not easy to talk about it, but it is too important to be hushed or ignored.
Causes and Solutions to Premature Ejaculation
Pre-existing medical or physiological issues, such as cardiovascular or metabolic problems, can cause premature ejaculation. It is always worth having a medical check up and dealing with these underlying causes if they exist.
PE can also be a condition that affects men since the inception of their sexuality. In such cases, medication prescribed by a medical professional will be required, in combination with other remedies and therapies.
For most men, PE is caused by psychological and behavioral issues acquired during adult life, such as anxiety and stress, relationship and intimacy issues, and guilt and shame around sex and masturbation, etc.
Ejaculation itself is a spinal reflex under strong control of the central nervous system. It is a reaction that can be influenced by past experience, as much as it is a control that can be learned and mastered.
How Tantric Therapy Can Help
Tantric therapy can help in reverting some of these psychological and behavioral causes of premature ejaculation.
Increase Physiological and Sensory Awareness
You can only have control of your own body if you are fully aware of the tiny changes happening in it, especially the feelings and sensations of the time from arousal, and leading up to ejaculation. Changes in sensations, muscular tensions, breathing, and how actions and movements of the body loop back to affect the erection and ejaculation process are some of the key physiological and sensory aspects of the functioning of your body that you can learn to be more familiar with.
Tantric therapeutic techniques involve the training of this intimate body-mind self-knowledge and controlled response through touch and awareness. They are skills that you can acquire and practice alone or with your partner, and learn to gradually master it.
Reverse Conditioned Responses
Conditioning from early sexual experience can create a pattern of quick ejaculation. Haste and nervousness, such as for fear of being discovered in masturbation, or in quick and casual sexual encounters, or shame and guilt surrounding past experiences can create behavioral patterns programmed in your body-mind, and can become self-perpetuating.
Knowing that PE can be a consequence of behavioral conditioning is the first step of reversing this pattern. Tantric therapy can help you understand the conditioning your body has acquired. You can learn to slow down, be mindful, identify what might have been the root of this pattern, and unlearn it.
Specific techniques can also be applied to support the re-education of your body, such as breathwork techniques, the stop-start technique, the squeeze technique, acupressure points, etc.
Performance anxiety-related stress is a self-fulfilling prophecy. The more one worries that sexual excitement will cause premature ejaculation, the more it will actually happen. Fear and negative thoughts and feelings can hamper self confidence, and exacerbate the anxiety, which will worsen one's ability to have voluntary control over ejaculation.
Tantric therapies can help break this vicious cycle with the safe and caring support of a therapist, free from judgement or expectation. You can openly talk about your past experiences and fears. It also involves a long session of therapeutic bodywork to help you learn to be attentive and distinguish different levels of arousal towards ejaculations, to let go of the fear, or to learn to linger in the mid-range of arousal, for example.
The more you know and the more you practice, the more confidence you will gain, and the better you can develop a voluntary control over your erection and ejaculation
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